Facing up to domestic violence can be one of the most difficult things you do. It can also be one of the best. You might be blaming your partner, you might be blaming alcohol or financial problems but you know, deep down, this is not the man you wanted to be.
We have helped thousands of men learn to change their behaviour and have safer, healthier relationships.
Information for fathers who have been referred by the family courts to attend the violence prevention programme as a contact activity direction or condition.
Who is this for?
Any man who wants to end his abusive behaviour towards his partner or ex-partner. Men of any age, background, race and religion are welcome.
How do I join?
Phone us for an interview appointment. Or, if your family is involved with Social Services or the Family Court, the referral needs to come from your case worker. We will have one or two meetings with you, to discuss the changes you want to make. Appointments are usually in office hours.
What happens next?
If we think the programme can help, we invite you to attend the first phase of the programme. We contact your partner or ex-partner before you start, to offer her support as well.
How long is the programme?
Approximately 26 sessions. These are weekly in the evenings, usually 6.30pm to 9.00pm.
What do the sessions cover?
The sessions are designed to help you end your abusive and controlling behaviour and build more respectful relationships. The group works on different aspects of violence and control, and on skills for better relationships and parenting.
Can I have individual appointments instead?
Our experience is that groups work better at helping men to understand violent behaviour and change it. We only offer individual sessions if it is not possible for men to participate in the group (e.g. he does not speak English) and if we have the resources to do so.
Are the sessions confidential?
If an agency has referred you, we keep them informed about your progress. This usually includes at least one written report. We talk to your partner or ex-partner about what is happening. Apart from this the sessions are confidential, and all men attending the programme sign a confidentially agreement.
Is there a waiting list?
You can usually start within eight weeks, sometimes less.
What does it cost?
Our fees are on a sliding scale, based on your income ask us for more information. If Social Services have referred you to the programme, they cover the cost and there is no charge to you.