Facing up to domestic violence can be one of the most difficult things you do. It can also be one of the best. You might be blaming your partner, you might be blaming alcohol or financial problems – but you know, deep down, this is not the man you wanted to be.
We have helped thousands of men learn to change their behaviour and have safer, healthier relationships.
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Any man who wants to end his abusive behaviour towards his partner or ex-partner. Men of any age, background, race and religion are welcome.
Phone us for an interview appointment. Or, if your family is involved with Social Services or the Family Court, the referral needs to come from your case worker. We’ll have one or two meetings with you, to discuss the changes you want to make. Appointments are usually in office hours.
If we think the programme can help, we invite you to attend the first phase of the programme. We contact your partner or ex-partner before you start, to offer her support as well.
Approximately 26 sessions. These are weekly in the evenings, usually 6.30pm to 9.00pm.
The sessions are designed to help you end your abusive and controlling behaviour and build more respectful relationships. The group works on different aspects of violence and control, and on skills for better relationships and parenting.
Our experience is that groups work better at helping men to understand violent behaviour and change it. We only offer individual sessions if it’s not possible for men to participate in the group (e.g. he does not speak English) and if we have the resources to do so.
If an agency has referred you, we keep them informed about your progress. This usually includes at least one written report. We talk to your partner or ex-partner about what is happening. Apart from this the sessions are confidential, and all men attending the programme sign a confidentially agreement.
You can usually start within eight weeks, sometimes less.
Our fees are on a sliding scale, based on your income – ask us for more information. If Social Services have referred you to the programme, they cover the cost and there is no charge to you.
Men who want to attend a programme to address their use of domestic violence
Information about ‘Men and Masculinities’, a programme for men in treatment for substance misuse, in the London Borough of Islington
Information for fathers who have been referred by the family courts to attend the violence prevention programme as a contact activity direction or condition.
Other agencies that may be able to help:
Men’s Advice Line
Confidential helpline for men experiencing domestic violence by a current partner or ex-partner. Includes men in heterosexual or same-sex relationships.
Tel: 0808 801 0327
Information and advice for people who are abusive towards their partners and want help to stop. Respect is the national association for domestic violence programmes and linked support services.
Information phoneline: 0808 802 4040
Tel: 0845 122 8609